Never give up never surrender

It's been a long journey for me. I wanted to let you know that this is not unusual and dependent upon the individual.

You will find that some areas of trauma are easy to get over than others. You will find that what is difficult for you to get over, is easier for someone else, and vice versa. Don't compare yourself to someone else's journey.

I really hoped that it would be a quick fix. I prayed it would take a couple of sessions with the councillor. The reality was that the journey has been a couple of years, and I am still processing stuff as and when it comes up.

I wanted to get over the trauma quickly because I felt I had lost so much time, and I just wanted to get on with life.

I found the journey easier when I didn't go digging around, trying to fix what was broken but allowing things to come to the surface.

Ever since I got divorced and completely free from the relationship, It's definitely taken me a couple of years to start to feel like a human being again.

There may be some good days and some really awful days. There are days when I'm making progress and being a voice of hope to so many. On other days, I have felt, what's the point? Why bother and why am I here?

You see, I lost everything. I had to spend a lot of time not only healing emotionally, but spiritually and also financially.

It seems that so many areas needed my intention at once.  This was overwhelming because I wondered where do I start? I was so desperate to move on that I tried to work on several areas at once.  But the reality was my brain and soul could only cope with maybe one or two things.

To those who may be feeling overwhelmed and wonder if things will ever change and somehow be redeemed from all the trauma they suffered.  I'm here to tell you that it is possible,  but I can't tell you how long it would take.

The only thing you have control of is your choice not to give up.  Keep seeking help until you have overcome everything trying to hold you down and hold you back.  This takes so much courage and tenacity.  Often these two attributes don't magically come but they are developed as you make the right choices to move forward no matter what. 

 I'm not going to lie to you some days can be really tough.  But hold on to the hope that as you keep moving forward you will get to where you want to be in the end.  Just take it one step at a time and you get there.

 more from me soon