The Lord Delights In You
I still remember that fateful day sitting in my kitchen in complete despair. Thinking that my only way out was suicide. As I have mentioned before, my Bible was on my kitchen table where I sat, and for some strange reason, I was led to open it. It opened to Isaiah 62.
My eyes were particularly drawn to this...
2 And the nations shall see your righteousness and vindication [your rightness and justice—not your own, but His ascribed to you], and all kings shall behold your salvation and glory; and you shall be called by a new name which the mouth of the Lord shall name.
3 You shall also be [so beautiful and prosperous as to be thought of as] a crown of glory and honor in the hand of the Lord, and a royal diadem [exceedingly beautiful] in the hand of your God.
4 You [Judah] shall no more be termed Forsaken, nor shall your land be called Desolate anymore. But you shall be called Hephzibah [My delight is in her], and your land be called Beulah [married]; for the Lord delights in you, and your land shall be married [owned and protected by the Lord].
I can honestly say that that piece of scripture saved my life. It was as if a light was switched on in my head. I realise my ex-husband's behaviour was wrong, undeserved, and abusive. I went on a journey to address the behaviour and to protect myself better. This ultimately led to me divorcing him and being free of him.
I had to do a bit of studying to understand what happened to me. It was through that studying that I started up this blog and wrote the single beautiful show.
You can listen here by clicking on this link.https://youtu.be/sTChbmGeNbo
I wanted to give language and expression to people who were like me. People who were suffering in silence unseen and unheard. I wanted to share how God saved my life that day, in hopes that it would bring comfort and hope to someone else. Writing this song was part of my healing process. I needed to be heard.
Speaking to other survivors of domestic abuse, there seems to be a general consensus that emotional abuse can be worse than physical. This is because the psychological damage can take far longer to recover from than a physical beating.
As someone who has survived all three, sexual, emotional, and physical (not all in the marriage); the psychological issues have been harder for me to overcome. Obviously, this is not a hard and fast rule and everybody's different. This is why It is so important not to generalise or fall into judgement. Studying the effects of emotional abuse confirmed that psychological abuse has such a deep effect on a person's brain that it causes brain damage.
‘According to recent studies, Emotional Trauma and PTSD do cause both brain and physical damage. Neuropathologists have seen overlapping effects of physical and emotional trauma upon the brain. With such an overlap it can be seen that both of these traumas have a detrimental effect upon the Amygdala, the Hippocampus and the Prefrontal cortex of the brain. Meaning that Emotional Trauma or PTSD does indeed result in brain injury/damage.’
These are just some of the things I'm wanting to highlight in a film that I'm wanting to create. Not everybody is aware of just how dangerous emotional abuse is and the truth is it's often disregarded, and victims are left to fend for themselves. I’ve set up a go fund me page because I wanted to create a film highlighting domestic abuse in marriage and its effects.
Please consider joining me to fight this problem and eradicate it from relationships once and for all. No one should ever have to suffer abuse in a relationship. There are no exceptions.
If you are able to, please can you consider donating to this. The more people that are made aware the quicker we can stop this from happening in relationships. Please click the link below and thank you in advance for your support.
More from me soon.
