Taboo or Not Taboo? That Is The Question
Now, this is a strange one. Only because I don’t understand why the subject of divorce and domestic abuse is a taboo subject when the sad truth is that it’s so common. I would have thought that because it is so common that there would be more free exchange of conversation about it.
I believe it’s not taboo at all. The lie surrounding taboo is the use of shame to silence those who are suffering. If it’s not talked about how can one identify the issues that need attention? Truth be told I didn’t know emotional psychological abuse existed till I researched it for myself. The people I talked to initially did not understand the pain and did not recognise the behaviour as abuse.
Maybe the key is talking to the right people as well as talking about it more freely? Who knows my years of suffering could have been cut shorter! A counselor asked me a very powerful question that set things in motion. He asked me ‘Does he want to change?’ This was was a significant turning point. The truth confessed by my ex-husband was that he did not want to. So I was left with a choice to either stay in an abusive situation or leave.
Faced with his answer why should this be taboo or controversial to be divorced under those circumstances? I wished someone who was trained and skilled talked to me years ago. I would have saved myself from a lot of unnecessary pain and saved a lot of time.
One of the reasons I started this blog was to give a voice to the voiceless. Encourage a conversation about this topic because there are a lot of people (men and women) who are suffering that need help. During a recovery course, I heard the most heartbreaking stories of women abusing their husbands! That’s not talked about as freely as the women's stories.
I will leave you with these thoughts…
· If you are in the thick of it, how about finding someone who is trained and skilled to talk to? It is worth searching to order to get the correct help.
· Talking about it with trusted people. Or maybe if appropriate start a blog and or support group yourself.
I hope that divorce, separation, and domestic abuse are more freely spoken about so that people do not suffer in silence.
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More from me soon
Glori
